If you are offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask which seat. Just get on.
Opposite sex has become such a colossal infamous topic. Or maybe it always was.
Along with AA (Alcoholics Anonymous), there must also be RA (Relationships Anonymous). Haha! Honestly, I was too blinded to see myself as one of the RA participants. What dumbfounded me later was the easy (and crazy) obsession we have over someone else’s life. Our education and career are faraway points, conveniently forgotten. My ears craved to hear about achievements like a high-paying job in a reputed company or signing a music album contract or an entrepreneurship venture or learning something new. We have mastered the information about a latest car or a film or a fancy mobile phone or futile gossips, but we are speechless about passions. We have reached a point where we do something either because we are afraid, or because there’s nothing to be scared of. But fire in our bellies? AWOL.
These examples are a confirmation of the aforesaid. Her firm declaration almost wrecked my excitement to have a night of an endless chitter-chatter with the girls I love: I don’t think I’ll marry him. Later, an anxious babble gashed my appetite for dinner with a decade old friend: My parents are concerned about his career. Here came another: I lost ten kilograms in a month, she is driving me crazy. When money was shouting louder than education, checkout my highly commendable discovery. A Facebook Wall status: Lawyered! #LLM #proudofmyself
Amidst the torturous getting hitched, married, going for honeymoon or having a baby stories, this was an invigorating change. Almost all my friends are either waiting for their SO (significant other – usually girls) for marriage or getting married early (usually boys). Till date, readiness of taking the responsibility of another family is mysterious.
“I didn’t strive this hard to get you married,” my father faithfully disclosed to me one merry evening. I had my family’s unconditional support for work. I could therefore leap from Mumbai to Bangalore. It has turned out to be a principal decision of my life and an exceptional example for you. Being able to afford shopping and a luxurious holiday was truly liberating! I loved living by myself and not being answerable. I also learned the most important lesson of my life, which I think everybody must – finding solutions. How do you overcome the eternally present problems? I’m not looking for a job in another city now, I continue to do it right from where I am.
Unfortunately, I have friends and cousins with non like-minded parents making things difficult. So don’t suck it up if you are one of those. Pointing fingers or winning the blame-game isn’t going to get you anywhere, is it? Becoming Ambani is the ultimate dream but conquering a little bit at a time, like Chandler, is creating a solid foundation.
Know that you can start late, look different, be uncertain, and still succeed.
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